Sunday, December 11, 2011

The Lusby’s Annual Christmas Letter


I sat down to write this and realized how silly it was. I mean, Facebook has pretty much made the Christmas letter obsolete. And my five real-life friends who aren’t on Facebook are here and heard me talk about this stuff all year long. Why write what happened over the past year? EVERYBODY ALREADY KNOWS!!! (I’m not even mailing this. It’s a blog post. The world has changed, my friends.)
So what to write about at Christmas? Well, it’s pretty simple--duh, Santa and the reindeer. (Just kidding, Mom.) What do we (edit--what SHOULD we) focus on at Christmas? 
Well, “it came to pass” two thousand years ago that a teenager named Mary had to tell her fiance that she was pregnant. And oh, by the way, Joseph? The baby is the promised Messiah, the son of God. (Sure he is, Mary. Sure he is.) Angelic messengers set the record straight, and in the face of serious opposition Joseph married her anyway. They went down to Bethlehem for the census and to pay their taxes (because the government has never made anything easy for anybody) and while they were there she gave birth in a barn. And put her baby in the box the where the cattle had their food. 
Smelly shepherds barged in, straight from the fields. The poor girl must have been terrified! Wise men came later bringing such strange gifts as gold, frankincense, and myrrh (which is used to anoint the dead--did they know more than they were letting on?). Joseph took his wife and child into Egypt to escape the madness of a jealous king. Finally, they arrived home safely in the little village of Nazareth. Baby Jesus had a rough start, no?
Some of my friends will say that we celebrate Christmas because 1700 years ago Christians needed a feast that would compete with Saturnalia, or the feast of the Winter Solstice. This is true, and they have a valid point. But that’s not why we celebrate Christmas. That’s just why we celebrate it on December 25
The reason why we celebrate Christmas is that a baby was born with his eyes on the cross; Baby Jesus would grow up to die, and then to rise again, to bridge the gap between God and humanity. To seek and to save that which was lost. To bring deliverance to the captives. To return in glory with trumpets and a mighty shout.
People complain about the commercialization of Christmas. Well, it’s really always been commercial (see previous paragraph referencing Winter feasts). Let the world have its presents and reindeer and fat men in red suits breaking and entering every house on the entire planet. We celebrate our Savior alongside them, just as we always have.
Oh--watch the Hershey kisses handbells if you can. It’s still the coolest commercial ever.
Merry Christmas!

Monday, October 24, 2011

12K


milling around the princess is checking out the competition 
wow, she’s doing this? yep, that’s my girl.
let’s get behind the running groups, ok? there’s the gun! off!
whoo-hoo! i made it running all the way out of the gate! ok i can walk now
the princess is still running--she’ll be fine 
there are 700 other people in this race she won’t get lost
i gotta feeling, that today’s gonna be a good race, that today I’ll have a good good time
i just got passed by a 6-year-old, that’s embarrassing
why am i doing this again?
because i can can can--and that’s one mile down
really? 2k already? i must be doing better than i thought
ooh my legs should stop hurting soon
see that girl, watch that scene, I am the walking queen!
and i can can can--three miles! whoo-hoo!
almost 4 miles? it’s only been 50 minutes I AM FLYING!!!!
water...over halfway...i am going to beat my time
i wonder how princess is doing?
life is an autostrada...i’m gonna walk it all day long
this is a really pretty walk i wonder what mountain range that is?
I’ve got a dream, i’ve got a dream...i just want this race to be over I want to scream
are we there yet? oh, there’s the pisa city limits sign
i can do this, i can do this, i can do this, i can finish this race
down the hill, up on the sidewalk, OUCH down on my knees--i’m ok i’m up
yes i tore holes in my pants
i can’t quit i’ve only got 2 kilometers left
oh this sidewalk goes on forever
it’s been a hard day’s walk...
i want to laugh i want to cry stop thinking and move
is this the last turn? YES
into the corto di miracoli...i can run just a little...ok maybe not
walking...walking...almost there...
GO LAURA!! GO LAURA!!
GO MOMMY!! GO MOMMY!!
oh, that is the sweetest song I have heard all day
shall i finish rocky style? yes
hands in the air i will run across the finish line
yes i beat myself by four whole minutes
where is the princess?
where is the husband?
where is the water?
where is the bathroom?
i am done.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

The Year of Last Things


Just over a month ago, I took my son’s picture on his first day of kindergarten. He was standing on our front porch steps, under the Texas flag (were there any doubts?) in the same place I have taken his sister’s first day of school picture every year for the past six years. As I took the picture, I started to cry. Not because it was his first day of kindergarten--ok, partly because of that--but because that is the last first day of school picture I will take on those front steps. Next year on the first day of school we will be Somewhere Else. And I have no idea where that is.
This year will be full of Last Things. The last opera in Verona. The last PWOC Fall kickoff, during which I was gratefully so busy I forgot to think about it and therefore did not spend the whole morning in tears. The last Christmas here--hopefully I can FINALLY get to a midnight mass, because it’s my last chance. The kids will have their Last Day of School--and that will be it for Vicenza. There will be one last trip to Venice--and then we will be off to a new adventure.
Why am I spending all this time crying over this? The military life is very transitory; people move ALL THE TIME. We will probably move every three years for the rest of our foreseeable future. Why does this one move affect me so much? Probably because we’ve been here so long. My daughter has lived here more than half her life. This is the only home my son has known (the United States is a foreign country to him.) I have lived in this place longer than I have lived anywhere since 1987. 
Italy has become my home. And while part of me looks forward to the next great adventure that God and the Army have for us, part of me will be looking around sadly as I treasure my Year of Last Things.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Friday Night (Opera) Lights


Sadly, the summer opera season has drawn to a close. I have enjoyed six glorious Friday (and Saturday) nights in the Verona Arena over the past nine weeks, sharing the opera experience with my friends and family. For those of you thinking, “Wow, how did you get your husband to take you to the opera six times in one summer?” I have two words: You’re funny. SSG OPSEC was delighted that I found a friend that I could go to the opera with last summer, and even happier when I found my daughter wanted to go this year. He did go once, to Romeo and Juliet, because that was a story he knew. But on a regular basis? Not gonna happen.
Each opera has been different in style and design, but the one factor that is the same each time--and has actually been my favorite element--has been the crowd. When 14,000 people are in the same place at the same time, they often share the same thoughts. It’s fun to be a part of this and to watch it happen.
The crowd behavior begins before the opera even starts. As the orchestra takes their seats, tiny lights wink on all over the Arena. It's no secret that one flame can give life to hundreds of lights. Candles are provided to the audience most nights, in honor of a performance on Verdi’s birthday nearly 100 years ago when the audience held them both to read their programs and to light the stage. 
Of course, the opera is not just about sight, but sound. During the first act of La Traviata, as the orchestra began the first notes of the “drinking song,” the crowd began to hum along. When that many people hum together, the sound hovers around and wraps itself around you in a unique form of unity. Once that first line was finished, I couldn’t help but chuckle--and that sound echoed throughout the Arena as well.
The night we saw Romeo and Juliet, well, it was hot. Hot and miserable. The performance begins at 9 PM, and usually the temperature has fallen into the “pleasant” range by then. Not that night. It was still blazing when the conductor’s baton fell. So it was no surprise that in the third act when a breeze finally began to blow, a collective sigh of relief was heard and felt across the Arena.
I’ve already written about what happens to the crowd when there is a rain delay. I didn’t know Italians knew how to do the wave, much less that they would do it at the opera, until the night we experienced Aida.
My favorite opera this year was Nabucco, a retelling of the story of the Biblical king Nebuchadnezzar. It’s full of brilliant music and profound loss, and the Chorus of the Hebrew Slaves in which they sing of their longing for their homeland moved me to tears. I left that night determined to learn the song. “What did they sing about, Mom?” my daughter asked. “I don’t know, but they want it deeply,” I replied. Sometimes you don’t have to understand the words to get the meaning.
I have most likely seen my last opera in Verona. By the time next summer’s opera season rolls around, we will probably have moved. Though I am admittedly sad about this, I look forward to finding another opera crowd to join and observe. 
They may even do the wave.

Monday, August 1, 2011

A Night at the Opera: An Italian Adventure

I promised my friend Angela that the opera would be an experience she wouldn’t forget, and this came true in ways even I couldn’t imagine.

The adventure began as soon as we arrived at the parking garage, especially as we were trying to get a minivan into a made-for-a-compact-car parking space. Angela’s sister-in-law Lisa gave helpful advice like “a little more forward, no, no, now back up, stop! Now, go forward, slowly, slowly, now back up, turn the wheel all the way that way, now forward again, turn the wheel the other way...and....there!” When we felt we could breathe again, we piled out of the minivan and were off.
Of course, a night at the opera must include dinner. So I took them to our favorite place, a hole in the wall (no, really, it’s built into the old city wall...) I ordered my dinner of chicken and fried potatoes in perfect...Spanish. Surprisingly, the waiter asked for clarification in German. “Papas fritas? Pomme fritz? Ah...patate fritte.” You would think I would know these words after six years in Italy. Or that I would order something easy like “lasagna.” 
Once we finished dinner we picked up Angela’s and Lisa’s tickets--sadly in a different section from ours--and found our seats. The Arena where the Opera is staged is a 2,000 years old stone amphitheater.  It looks very much like the one in Rome, only smaller. There are expensive seats--actual chairs set out--on the floor, where the rich people sit.  My daughter’s favorite part of the evening is watching the ladies in fancy dresses come in, especially if she can find someone we saw standing outside. Our seats, on the other hand, are the stone tiers of the amphitheater. Most evenings the stone is warm from the sun which is nice, but sitting on marble for 4 hours is not the most comfy thing in the world (we bring cushions). Angela and Lisa were seated on the other side of the Arena. “Where are they, Mom?” my daughter kept asking. We sent text messages back and forth, Angela eventually waving her lighter and me my phone so we could find each other. 
Since this is held in an outdoor venue, the show begins at 9 PM. The strains of Verdi fill the sold-out Arena, telling the story of Aida, a slave in Egypt. She is in love with Radames, a captain in the Egyptian army; of course, they have to keep their love a secret. Radames goes off to war and Aida’s mistress finds her weeping--the secret is out. Whether there were 500 people or 5 people on stage, we were never bored. 
At the end of the first act, the lights went out, as was expected, and people began to stand up and stretch. Stagehands with flashlights came out and began moving set pieces, and actors came back out on the stage. I was confused, since all this was happening in the relative darkness. Suddenly, bright blue lights flooded the stage and the ballet began. It was fabulous, even more so because it was unexpected. The triumphal march in the second act was made even more dramatic by the towering “will-they-or-won’t they” storm clouds in the sky which kept flickering with internal lightning. Radames returns, having conquered the Ethiopians--including Aida’s father, the Ethiopian king.What? She’s a...princess?
Between the second and third acts, the orchestra began to pack up their instruments. More confusion. However, when it started to lightly sprinkle in the middle of the third act it made more sense--musicians do NOT want their instruments wet, especially the woodwinds and strings. The wind picked up also, adding drama to the story as Aida tricks Radames into telling her where the army is going next. Aida’s father hears the news (remember, he’s the leader of the opposing country), but they are all discovered before an attack can be planned.  
The tension that had been growing all evening, both on the stage and in the sky, deepened at this point, with the intermission between the third and fourth act. It was supposed to be 20 minutes long. The clouds had other ideas. So what happens when 10,000 Italians are sitting in an Arena waiting for the opera to begin, or not? They do the Wave! It began in Angela’s side of the stadium, traveling around and around. Honestly, since this is not the sort of thing that the decorous Italians commonly do at a performance (they look at you funny if you sing and dance at a concert) I thought it was hilarious. Here I am, in Italy, at the opera, doing the Wave. After 20 minutes, an announcement was made over the loudspeaker in Italian, German, and English that the performance “may or may not continue.” The powers that be would continue to check in with the meteorological society to monitor the chances of rain. So we did the wave again. 
At long last, the skies were approved, and the performance could continue. Several stage hands came out and wiped off the music stands and the orchestra’s chairs--to thunderous applause.  When the conductor entered, he received the loudest applause of all. The opera continued; Radames and Aida are sentenced to death, to be sealed inside a temple to one of the Egyptian gods. They comfort each other as they plan to starve to death, slowly fading away as the music gets softer and softer. 
After the show, we had to go out for gelato and cappuccino, since it was by this time nearly 2:30 in the morning. Deep-dish pizza was also involved. Finally, we were on the way home, which sounds simple enough, if we could have found the autostrada. I know how to get to the Autostrada, it’s clearly marked and I’ve done it dozens of times. But we were in a different parking garage last night, and when we followed the signs they kept leading us to road construction and “deviazione” or detours. Angela pulled out her GPS and told it to take her home, but after about two minutes we figured out it wanted to go back to the Opera. So we ignored it and headed to the autostrada on our own, trying desperately to follow the signs as the roads got funnier and funnier. After about 45 minutes of this, we found the highway and headed back to Vicenza, arriving home at 4:30--about an hour before the sun comes up. I crawled into bed and slept until 11.
La Traviata has been my favorite performance so far this season (post coming), but last night’s Aida was the most unforgettable opera experience I have ever had. I hope that I get to go to the opera with Angela again, but I hope it’s simpler next time.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Chiusa Per Feria

When living in a foreign country, you get used to a lot of really weird things. Menus aren’t in English, you wear a size 42 when you used to wear a size 8, driving is a contact sport, nothing is open on Monday, and you probably can’t go to dinner before 6:30 PM because the restaurants have closed after lunch and won’t open again until...whenever. That’s just the way it is in Italy. You roll with it. And then, after six years, some things can still surprise you.
The other day we were on our way to post and needed to stop and get gas. This almost always requires a specially planned trip because of the insane hours that the gas stations are open, usually 0600-1230, and 1530-1800, and not on weekends or Italian holidays. We pulled into our favorite gas station, and it was closed. 
Why? It wasn’t an Italian holiday (we checked), it wasn’t riposo (Italian nap time, 1230-1530 when almost everything closes--and yes, we checked the time before leaving the house). It wasn’t even a weekend. I got out and read the hand-lettered sign on the door. “Chiusa per feria” (closed for vacation).
Of course. The family who runs this gas station has gone on holiday and has closed their gas station while they are gone. For two weeks. Fortunately there is another gas station across the street where we fill up our car and go on our merry way.
I love this country. Bella Italia!

Monday, May 9, 2011

Seven Weeks

I’m an Army Wife, and this means that my husband is periodically gone for indeterminate amounts of time. These Temporary Duty (TDY) assignments often happen at inconvenient moments, like two years ago when my parents were coming to visit and he turned in his leave papers and was turned down that very day because he was being sent to Africa. Sigh. He hasn’t had to leave very often, though, so I don’t complain, especially since I live in a community that has seen 3 deployments (one of them 15 months long) in 5 years.
He’s gone now, though. He’s “away” at “school” and yes, I’m deliberately being dodgy. It’s what happens when you are married to Sergeant OPSEC. (OPerational SECurity--I’ll try to translate new acronyms for any civilian readers, but forgive me if I forget.) This school is only seven weeks long, and in Army time seven weeks is nothing. In fact, I wouldn’t be writing about this TDY at all it if hadn’t been for Week 5.
Almost three weeks ago, on April 21, at about 9:45 in the morning, my grandmother died. I got the phone call--one I had been expecting and dreading for a few months--just before 5 PM because of the time difference between Texas and Europe. We were on the way to my daughter’s track practice, so I put off telling the kids until we got home. The three of us huddled on the couch and cried together. 
I spent Friday in a blur of errands, cleaning, and laundry, helped by very good friends. I bundled the kids off to a friend’s house for the week, then returned home to an empty house to pack and sleep a little before catching a ride to a 4:00 AM bus to a 7:00 AM flight. Coffee is the most important meal of the day, yes?
The paperwork says that I flew for 18 hours on Saturday, but by the time I got to San Antonio I felt like I had been traveling for three days. My mom agreed--she insisted that it had been a month since last Thursday. It was good to be home, in spite of the reason, and in spite of lost luggage. Easter Sunday I went to church “by myself” (translation: no husband, no kids) for the first time in over ten years. I was with my mom, dad, and sister, but still felt very much alone. The whole day was just extremely odd. No dyed eggs. No baskets. Nothing normal. Just numbness and jet lag.
Grandmother’s memorial was on Monday afternoon. Most of us were still functioning in extreme slow time mode; by the time of the memorial, I could hardly believe that Easter had been just the day before. We found out many things about Grandmother at the memorial, some hilarious, some sentimental. I learned that she was saved as a little girl and her actions led to the salvation of her parents, and then eventually to my mother’s coming to know the Lord, which led to mine, which led to my daughter’s. Turns out in addition to her name and her affinity for pearls, I share her skill at the clarinet and her love of opera. Who knew?
The rest of the week was also very slow as my sisters, aunts, and I cleaned out Grandmother’s house. Each day lasted a week; the whole week seemed to last a year. I was sure my children would be as tall me when I got home. Fortunately this is not the case. My son is still small enough to turn upside-down and throw over my shoulder.
So that was Week 5. It’s been another week since then, a week that I have spent trying to process all these emotions--and more jet lag--and trying to decide if I am going to cry now or wait until my husband gets home. I’ve also been mostly unable to do much of anything else. I’ve been trying so hard to “keep it together,” that I am just exhausted. Anyway, I can only sit on the lid of my emotional suitcase for so long. If it explodes, it won’t be pretty. It’s much safer and less messy to unpack. Judging from the number of used tissues on the couch,  I guess the time is now.
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Do I feel better? No--I have a crying headache, my nose is red, and my eyes are puffy. But I think my heart is a little less tight. God is my refuge and strength, my help and my comforter. Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. So many beautiful names for God that I have learned--it is so good to know that I can call on Him today.
I’m so thankful for the peace He brings, even if I don’t feel it quite yet. I know it’s coming, just like I know my husband is coming home next week.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Here We Go Again...

Why in the world would anyone want two blogs? Isn't that just crazy?  Well, the answer is yes and no.

My first blog is a Read-The-Bible-In-A-Year blog. It's academic, and it has a time limit. Once we get to the end of the year, or the end of the Bible, that's it. It serves a purpose, but it doesn't leave me room to chase rabbits or just make statements about life or the state of the world.

So I started this blog for that purpose, because sometimes I have so much to say I feel I will burst, and you can only fit so much in a FaceBook status. So here's a new blog, written by a God-fearing Army wife with a skewed perspective on what "old" and "historical" mean (living in Europe will do that to you). Some posts will be funny, some will be deep, some will be both.

All will be honest.

See you next time.